When it comes to having the conversation with children about death, it can be very sensitive and uncomfortable. Parents feel this natural instinct to protect and shield their children from negativity, thus making this conversation difficult. We understand that you would not want your child to feel hurt or sadness, nonetheless, this is a very important conversation that needs to take place with your child because as they age they will experience the death of family members more and more. By establishing an open conversation, it will later help your children through the grieving process. Within this article, we will break down four ways to help you have this conversation with your child.
One of the most important tips for having this conversation with your children is to always remember to be patient. Your child may be emotional, or have many questions about the topic but it is important to remember patience. They will have questions, but this is a confusing topic for them to navigate.
Based on a child’s age and maturity level they will be able to process information at different rates. No one understands your children better then you do, if you do not believe that your child is at an age where they can comprehend the topic, then consider pushing it back. However, at a young age you can consider introducing the basics and as they age getting into more complex explanations. If you throw to much information at them at the start, it can be overwhelming.
Encourage Discussion and Questions
For children, death is an unknown realm, and naturally children are very curious. Your role as a parent is to have a space discussion where they feel comfortable asking questions and having an active discussion. Some of their questions may pull at your heart strings a little, but be honest with them or if you don’t have an answer to a questions explain that to them.
Many parents find that they have to shelter or hide their emotions from there children, just like them you are also going through a grieving process, it is important for them to see that. If they see their parents happy after the passing of a loved one, they may start thinking that they are not allowed to feel sadness towards the passing of a loved one. When you are able to be open with your children about your own emotions, it brings a sense of normalcy, compassion and connection between you and your children.
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